I do not like to be manipulated. I do not like phony people. They make life painful. One area that is particularly sensitive is when you hurt my children...Mother Bear comes out!!!
I do not believe people wake up and think "Okay, I am going to ruin Mrs. Whojit's day today by speaking poorly about her children." Of course they don't! People just don't think at all. They think they are different. They think their judgments are okay and justified. Apparently they think their words do not travel or do not hurt?
I do not like people who abuse their power. Position is not to be over someone. I have found that the most effective way of leading people is by their side and cheering them on. Understanding where they are at, being there with them IN the moment. Counseling your team is much different than telling. Inspiring is much different than motivating. Asking is much different than telling. Power can be very positive or negative!
Some people are takers other are givers. The best relationships are two givers. Two takers won't last long at all. Oftentimes you have a taker and a giver...until the giver just gives out. Truth is you may change roles with different people at different times in your life, but by nature you are either one or the other.
I believe that most people do have good hearts and truly want to do good by others. I also believe there is a deficit of love and an abundance of self absorbed people that fear the very thing they need the most...Unconditional Love.
It seems to make sense that if we give Unconditional Love away it WILL come back...at least from the people that we would be interested in it from...RIGHT? RIGHT!
Now Mother Bear is Right AND Happy about that one!!!
Interesting post...things no one seems to look at. What position was the person in saying their feelings. Some are just rumors and judgment due to plain not understanding and its what people love to do! Hello Ogden! Many people are so concerned with being right that all their mental energy is consumed by stonewalling, bluffing, blaming and denying. If your wrong admit it and get on to the solution. Understanding brings justice 99%. However as sad as it is, people are so jaded by the "real" thing they second guess someone admitting wrong (the healthy & genuine) and blow it off as "oh well, yeah". Well, shame on them, their problem. Move on if your a true person yourself. Face up to mistakes. Its a sign of mental maturity, personal strength, and individual character. Everybody makes mistakes EVERY single day. Shame on the judgment! Start Understanding where someone is coming from, especially in a family/friend mesh! Admitting your wrong, not perfect on a regular basis is a mark of intelligence and courage...or cut your losses! Some are shallow. Shame on that.
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